Running head: PERSONAL RELATIONSHIPS
Discuss some of the advice that Emery gives for divorced individuals. What does he
advise about emotions? What does Maslow's Hierarchy of Needs have to do with this topic?
What type of parenting does Emery recommend? What does he say about conflict? What is
alienation and parental denigration?
Emery advocates for negotiation as a key instrument in addressing divorce among
individuals. He argues that negotiations are far much important before people arrive at signing
the final agreement of divorce approval. Emery views divorce as one factor that can affect family
life especially for a parenting couple which has children such as the one for Justin and Nicole
who are co-parenting two children (Emery, 2007). Nevertheless on the other hand emery still
views divorce as a marriage barrier which can also be solved or rather addressed if the involved
parties were to consult a third party to initiate arbitration between them.
About advice on emotions, emery views emotions as a function of multiple variables such
as anger which stems from fearing, grief, longing and guilt. He argues that emotions can be
controlled as long as people apply rationality in approach to their differences as especially
through the assistance of a third party that would help them achieve this end. According to emery
relationships such as marriage are full of emotions particular when it comes to challenging
factors such as divorce; these emotions emanate from other different underlying pressures which
are distinct between parties in a couple (Emery, 2007). A great example of some of the
contributing pressures as are such as different interests in solving the challenges presented by
divorce where one party like Justin is interested particularly in securing ample time with his
children even after divorce while on the other hand Nicole is concerned with securing his
marriage. In essence, in solving such emotional differences, emery recommends compromise
and rationality and most importantly controlled emotions.
Emery uses Maslow's hierarchy of needs to recommend a framework which would help
in establishing a good parenting relationship for divorced parties to ensure appropriate up bring
of children which means meeting their needs. For instance, emery recommends a low level of
conflict between parents or highly contained conflict which keeps children protected from
parental disputes. He also argues for a good relationship which has the presence of one
authoritative parent who is both disciplined and loving as children deserve all this in their lives.
That said, emery recommends planned parenting in case of divorce where both parents
understand and take responsibility of their children even when divorced and also a plan that
gives each parent an opportunity to spend time with their children. Regarding conflict, the author
views conflict a barrier to amicable solutions between couples and one that affects the
appropriate parenting thus children turning out to be the majo...