Conceptualization, Thoughts, and Comments
(H) What I think is that this is very hard to
do. I think that being a good person
is almost impossible.
Why do you think it is
You use the term good
person. I am wondering if you could
tell me how a good person acts.
I am wondering who has
defined for him, a good person and why he doesn’t think he is one.
(H) Because I always screw up.
Always, you don’t do
anything right ever?
You seem pretty
disappointed in yourself, can you explain more about that.
I am really wondering why
he is upset and feeling hopeless. His
face seems so sad too.
(W) He seems to be frustrated a lot of the time
and I do not know how to help, then I feel frustrated and down.
You sound pretty
(W) I am. I do the same things all the time.
So, what I am hearing you
say Sally that you feel frustrated often because you do not know how to help
Harry with his frustration.
Here I wanted to reflect
how this concern is impacting both of them.
(W) Yes, that is it.
So, I would like to hear a
bit from each of you about how you experience this internally and what you
would like to see happen.
I could have used the
miracle question here and asked each of them: If a miracle happened tonight
while you were asleep and this problem was gone, what would be different in