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Speak softly and carry a big stick was an ideology brought forward by former American president Franklin Roosevelt in regards to American foreign policy. Believed to be borrowed from a West African proverb, the phrase in essence entailed the calculated use of a soft touch in diplomatic relations while at the same time retaining sufficient military muscle to carry out the nation's bidding. Non-aggression with the ability to act violently if and when required to do so was the charm offensive employed by president Roosevelt which he argued brought far better outcomes than outright military engagements. This statement is juxtaposed by the chest thumping of powerful tyrants who engage in elaborate displays in an attempt to showcase and in many cases overestimate their power.
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