Pakistani educator Ziauddin Yousafzai reminds the world of a simple truth that many don't want to hear:
Women and men deserve equal opportunities for education, autonomy, an independent identity. He tells
stories from his own life and the life of his daughter, Malala, who was shot by the Taliban in 2012 simply
for daring to go to school. "Why is my daughter so strong?" Yousafzai asks. "Because I didn't clip her
00:13 In many patriarchal societies and tribal societies, fathers are usually known by their sons, but
I'm one of the few fathers who is known by his daughter, and I am proud of it.
00:35 Malala started her campaign for education and stood for her rights in 2007, and when her
efforts were honored in 2011, and she was given the national youth peace prize, and she
became a very famous, very popular young girl of her country. Before that, she was my
daughter, but now I am her father. Ladies and gentlemen, if we glance to human history, the
story of women is the story of injustice, inequality, violence and exploitation. You see, in
patriarchal societies, right from the very beginning, when a girl is born, her birth is not
celebrated. She is not welcomed, neither by father nor by mother. The neighborhood comes
and commiserates with the mother, and nobody congratulates the father. And a mother is
very uncomfortable for having a girl child. When she gives birth to the first girl child, first
daughter, she is sad. When she gives birth to the second daughter, she is shocked, and in the
expectation of a son, when she gives birth to a third daughter, she feels guilty like a criminal.
02:24 Not only the mother suffers, but the daughter, the newly born daughter, when she grows old,
she suffers too. At the age of five, while she should be going to school, she stays at home and
her brothers are admitted in a school. Until the age of 12, somehow, she has a good life. She
can have fun. She can play with her friends in the streets, and she can move around in the
streets like a butterfly. But when she enters her teens, when she becomes 13 years old, she is
forbidden to go out of her home without a male escort. She is confined under the four walls
of her home. She is no more a free individual. She becomes the so-called honor of her father
and of her brothers and of her family, and if she transgresses the code of that so-called honor,
she could even be killed.
03:44 And it is also interesting that this so-called code of honor, it does not only affect the life of a
girl, it also affects the life of the male members of the family. I know a family of seven sisters
and one brother, and that one brother, he has migrated to the Gulf countries, to earn a living
for his seven sisters and parents, because he thinks that it will be humiliating if his seven
sisters learn a skill and they go out of the home and earn some livelihood. So this brother, he
sacrifices the joys of his life and the happiness of his sisters at the altar of so-called honor.
04:45 And there is one more norm of the patriarchal societies that is called obedience. A good girl is
supposed to be very quiet, very humble and very submissive. It is the criteria. The role model
good girl should be very quiet. She is supposed to be silent and she is supposed to accept the
decisions of her father and mother and the decisions of elders, even if she does not like them.
If she is married to a man she doesn't like or if she is married to an old man, she has to
accept, because she does not want to be dubbed as disobedient. If she is married very early,
she has to accept. Otherwise, she will be called disobedient. And what happens at the end? In
the words of a poetess, she is wedded, bedded, and then she gives birth to more sons and
daughters. And it is the irony of the situation that this mother, she teaches the same lesson of
obedience to her daughter and the same lesson of honor to her sons. And this vicious cycle
goes on, goes on.
06:18 Ladies and gentlemen, this plight of millions of women could be changed if we think
differently, if women and men think differently, if men and women in the tribal and
patriarchal societies in the developing countries, if they can break a few norms of family and
society, if they can abolish the discriminatory laws of the systems in their states, which go
against the basic human rights of the women.
07:00 Dear brothers and sisters, when Malala was born, and for the first time, believe me, I don't
like newborn children, to be honest, but when I went and I looked into her eyes, believe me, I
got extremely honored. And long before she was born, I thought about her name, and I was
fascinated with a heroic legendary freedom fighter in Afghanistan. Her name was Malalai of
Maiwand, and I named my daughter after her. A few days after Malala was born, my daughter
was born, my cousin came -- and it was a coincidence -- he came to my home and he brought
a family tree, a family tree of the Yousafzai family, and when I looked at the family tree, it
traced back to 300 years of our ancestors. But when I looked, all were men, and I picked my
pen, drew a line from my name, and wrote, "Malala."
08:25 And when she grow old, when she was four and a half years old, I admitted her in my school.
You will be asking, then, why should I mention about the admission of a girl in a school? Yes, I
must mention it. It may be taken for granted in Canada, in America, in many developed
countries, but in poor countries, in patriarchal societies, in tribal societies, it's a big event for
the life of girl. Enrollment in a school means recognition of her identity and her name.
Admission in a school means that she has entered the world of dreams and aspirations where
she can explore her potentials for her future life. I have five sisters, and none of them could
go to school, and you will be astonished, two weeks before, when I was filling out the
Canadian visa form, and I was filling out the family part of the form, I could not recall the
surnames of some of my sisters. And the reason was that I have never, never seen the names
of my sisters written on any document. That was the reason that I valued my daughter. What
my father could not give to my sisters and to his daughters, I thought I must change it.
10:16 I used to appreciate the intelligence and the brilliance of my daughter. I encouraged her to sit
with me when my friends used to come. I encouraged her to go with me to different
meetings. And all these good values, I tried to inculcate in her personality. And this was not
only she, only Malala. I imparted all these good values to my school, girl students and boy
students as well. I used education for emancipation. I taught my girls, I taught my girl
students, to unlearn the lesson of obedience. I taught my boy students to unlearn the lesson
of so-called pseudo-honor.
11:13 Dear brothers and sisters, we were striving for more rights for women, and we were
struggling to have more, more and more space for the women in society. But we came across
a new phenomenon. It was lethal to human rights and particularly to women's rights. It was
called Talibanization. It means a complete negation of women's participation in all political,
economical and social activities. Hundreds of schools were lost. Girls were prohibited from
going to school. Women were forced to wear veils and they were stopped from going to the
markets. Musicians were silenced, girls were flogged and singers were killed. Millions were
suffering, but few spoke, and it was the most scary thing when you have all around such
people who kill and who flog, and you speak for your rights. It's really the most scary thing.
12:42 At the age of 10, Malala stood, and she stood for the right of education. She wrote a diary for
the BBC blog, she volunteered herself for the New York Times documentaries, and she spoke
from every platform she could. And her voice was the most powerful voice. It spread like a
crescendo all around the world. And that was the reason the Taliban could not tolerate her
campaign, and on October 9 2012, she was shot in the head at point blank range.
13:31 It was a doomsday for my family and for me. The world turned into a big black hole. While my
daughter was on the verge of life and death, I whispered into the ears of my wife, "Should I be
blamed for what happened to my daughter and your daughter?"
13:57 And she abruptly told me, "Please don't blame yourself. You stood for the right cause. You put
your life at stake for the cause of truth, for the cause of peace, and for the cause of
education, and your daughter in inspired from you and she joined you. You both were on the
right path and God will protect her."
14:21 These few words meant a lot to me, and I didn't ask this question again.
14:28 When Malala was in the hospital, and she was going through the severe pains and she had
had severe headaches because her facial nerve was cut down, I used to see a dark shadow
spreading on the face of my wife. But my daughter never complained. She used to tell us, "I'm
fine with my crooked smile and with my numbness in my face. I'll be okay. Please don't
worry." She was a solace for us, and she consoled us.
15:12 Dear brothers and sisters, we learned from her how to be resilient in the most difficult times,
and I'm glad to share with you that despite being an icon for the rights of children and
women, she is like any 16-year old girl. She cries when her homework is incomplete. She
quarrels with her brothers, and I am very happy for that.
15:50 People ask me, what special is in my mentorship which has made Malala so bold and so
courageous and so vocal and poised? I tell them, don't ask me what I did. Ask me what I did
not do. I did not clip her wings, and that's all.
16:18 Thank you very much.
16:21 (Applause) Thank you. Thank you very much. Thank you. (Applause)
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