#3 Reflection
Firstly every individual should grant the underrepresented people and groups experiencing
inconsideration, exclusion and hostility such as the deaf people within the society. Furthermore
we should work on well-defined, lessons and capabilities based on both and the culture of the
deaf people. Every individual should incest in coming up with comparisons knowledgably and
enormous society with a strength-based techniques while acquiring justice for the deaf.
Additionally, the kind of values we need in order guide the deaf should be equal, compassionate
and ought to be listened attentively with respect to all cries and having confident while claiming
freedom for every citizen
Generally if we acquire good values, inclusivity will be promoted between the deaf and
normal citizens within the community. To top all that inequality will be minimized and respect
on diverse activity within amongst us. People should seek to promote change across different
many areas of influence. In conclusion we should all join hands and bring up privileges for all
the cries expressed in non-threatening surrounding. Nevertheless we should try and implement
interaction that promote open conversation bringing change among us and dismantling the
hidden structure of privilege and empower individual opportunity. In doing so, we give gratitude
on social justice and unpleasing procedures that needs one to be aware of themselves based on
the imperfections and privileges they come across. Everybody should advocate on the need of
the deaf people and put all ears to their voices which most times are dismissed.
Running head: DARING GREATLY
Introduction
The book focusses on connections in details. Human being relies on the connections we
make with each other on our day to day lives to coexist. These connections are what gives our
lives meaning and purpose. While we may rely on this connections to function better in the
society, we are faced with different challenges and hindrances that may prevent us from
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achieving our objectives in life. For instance, shame is one of the limitations that can prevent you
from soaring up high and making your dreams a reality. Shame is brought about by the fear of
not being worthy of developing a connection with your fellow peers or those around you. This
may act as a major setback since it will prevent you from interacting with others and learning
from them. Through interaction, we are able to expand our scope of knowledge about various
issues and topics which may turn out to be helpful in helping us achieve our goals.
Chapter 1: Scarcity: Looking At Our Culture of “Never Enough
Every person is afraid of something. We all have at some point felt tired of being afraid and wishes that
there is something that we can do to help the situation. In order for us to achieve our goals full, we need to stop
being afraid of the unknown and embrace a new culture. The fear of the unknown has made us develop a negative
attitude towards anything new that does not fit in our day to day life expectations. Previously I have my concerns
about other cultures until I learned of what they mean to us and most importantly to those that practice them. It is
easier for us to dismiss a culture as not valuable if we do not understand it and may cause those that practice the
culture feel unloved and shameful of themselves. In my studies in a deaf school, I have learned that we cannot
achieve anything by disregarding the culture of others and often we should make sure that we appreciate what we
don’t fully understand by trying our best to learn about. What almost no one understands is how every
level of severity in this diagnosis is underpinned by shame. Which means we don’t “fix it” by
cutting people down to size and reminding folks of their inadequacies and smallness. Shame is
more likely to be the cause of these behaviors, not the cure (Brown, p.21). The main causes of
scarcity in the society are shame, comparison, and disengagement. People are afraid of being
ridiculed by others and being belittled for their achievements or ideas and would rather not share
them with the world. Comparing people of different cultures, background, and educational
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backgrounds may not be fair to them and may cause them to disengage from the society and with
that goes their only chance of learning about other cultures out there.
Chapter 2; Debunking the Vulnerability Myths
When we are placed in new situations that we do not fully understand, we feel vulnerable and
weak. The truth is that vulnerability is neither good nor bad and can serve both as an advantage
and as a weakness. While I was studying in a deaf school I felt that I was in a new environment
that I completely did not understand and I was susceptible to all kind of harm both physically
and especially emotionally. Finding a common ground and realizing that the fear of being
vulnerable was only in my head made me realize that I had no reason to be afraid and helped me
learn and cope with my situation much faster than I expected. I learned to overcome the feeling
of fear that was in me which gave me an edge on dealing with my new found culture. We’ve
come to the point where, rather than respecting and appreciating the courage and daring behind
vulnerability, we let our fear and discomfort become judgment and criticism. The vulnerability
isn’t good or bad: It’s not what we call a dark emotion, nor is it always a light, positive
experience. The vulnerability is the cause of all emotions and feelings. To feel is to be vulnerable.
To believe vulnerability is a weakness is to believe that feeling is a weakness. To foreclose on
our emotional life out of a fear that the costs will be too high is to walk away from the very thing
that gives purpose and meaning to living (Brown, p.33).
Chapter 3: Understanding and Combating Shame
Shame is a unifying factor and feeling that all human being share. All of us feel shame to some
degree and would prefer not to speak about it. The worst part is that we are making the situation
worse by not talking about it. Yes, shame is tough to talk about. But the conversation isn’t nearly
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as dangerous as what we’re creating with our silence! We all experience shame. We’re all afraid
to talk about it. And, the less we talk about it, the more we have it (Brown, p.62). When I joined
the school there were several cultures and ways of doing things that I did not understand. This
made me feel less of myself and tried to do them the way I thought they should be done even
though I was wrong. I was afraid of asking my colleagues on how to proceed since I felt
ashamed that they might realize that I do not know how to do them. Most of the times I had to
redo the task and this caused me to feel more humiliated about the situation which was worse
than the alternative. Had I just admitted that I did not know how to perform the tasks, I would
have saved myself the embarrassment. Shame prevented me from doing so since I was not
willing to speak out and admit that I have a problem. There is no one person who knows
everything and as such asking for help should not have been hard for me. Talking about the
things that make us feel shameful helps to overcome it.
Chapter 4: The Vulnerability Armory
At young ages, we develop ways to prevent us from feeling vulnerable and this may work but as
we get older we may need to unmask ourselves and let the world know our true self. Relying on
gimmicks such as humor sarcasm and the rest to cover for our vulnerability will no longer work
in our favor if we expect to grow mentally and emotionally. I always felt like I could use these
attributes to cover for my vulnerability but sooner or later I found out that it was not the best
thing for me. The word persona is the Greek term for “stage mask.” In my work masks and
armor are perfect metaphors for how we protect ourselves from the discomfort of vulnerability.
… Vulnerability is the last thing I want you to see in me, but the first thing I look for in you
(Brown, p.113). Without being vulnerable you cannot be truly honest with those around you thus
preventing you from truly learning and being happy. First, I only share stories or experiences that
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I’ve worked through and feel that I can share from solid ground. I don’t share what I define as
“intimate” stories, nor do I share stories that are fresh wounds (Brown, p.161-162). You find
yourself only sharing what you feel will make you feel stronger and not vulnerable to your peers.
This will not make you feel happy as you cannot achieve joy without being vulnerable. I’d argue
that joy is probably the most difficult emotion to really feel. Why? Because when we lose the
ability or willingness to be vulnerable, joy becomes something we approach with deep
foreboding (Brown, p.117-118).
Chapter 5: Mind the Gap: Cultivating Change and Closing the Disengagement Divide
When we feel that we do not understand something and that we don’t want to feel shamed and
vulnerable, our instincts to stay kicks in. people disengage and choose not to participate in the
activities that they are not comfortable in for the comfort of feeling less vulnerable and ashamed
of themselves. We disengage to protect ourselves from vulnerability, shame, and feeling lost and
without purpose. We also disengage when we feel like the people who are leading us — our boss,
our teachers, our principal, our clergy, our parents, our politicians — aren’t living up to their end
of the social contract (Brown, p.167). When you feel that your teacher is not providing you with
the support you require to overcome the challenges that you face in your day to day life, you will
start disengaging and creating a rift between you and the rest of the people.
Chapter 6: Disruptive Engagement: Daring to Rehumanize Education and Work
To help bring back creativity, innovation and enhance learning in schools and other institutions
re-humanizing is important. People must be willing to talk about the things that bring you shame.
These things must be brought to light and dealt with if they we are to move forward. At some
point in my life, I had to share the most embarrassing and painful things to help move overcome
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my fear of being in a new environment. This helped me deal with the situation way better and
adapt fast to my new environment. I was encouraged by my peers and teacher to do so which in
turn helped me overcome my fears of being a failure. I’ve come to believe that a leader is anyone
who holds her- or himself accountable for finding potential in people and processes. The term
leader has nothing to do with position, status, or a number of direct reports (Brown, p.185).
Chapter 7: Wholehearted Parenting: Daring to Be the Adults We Want Our Children to Be
Raising children is one of the most important and difficult tasks there is. We are always looking
over our shoulders because we feel guilty of our actions. For older siblings, this is easier but for
parents, it’s very hard for them at times and may be quite stressful. Sometimes parents are not
sure that what they are doing is the right thing for their children and this bothers them. The
uncertainty of parenting can bring up feelings in us that range from frustration to terror (Brown,
p.215). This is even worsened when someone else suggests a different approach towards the
problem that they are facing. It makes them feel like they are failing as parents. When we obsess
over our parenting choices to the extent that most of us do and then see someone else making
different choices, we often perceive that difference as direct criticism of how we are parenting
(Brown, p.215)
Sources
Brown, B. (2012). Daring Greatly: How the Courage to Be Vulnerable Transforms the Way We
Live, Love, Parent, and Lead. Penguin.
I have given feedback on the 3 reflections you sent me. A reflection is your chance to
make connections between what you've learned in class and real-life experiences or
issues. I fail to see that in your work--what have you learned that you were able to apply
to your real-life experiences and issues? Please fix and change the level English
Your Daring Greatly Transformation is off to a good start, although it needs more depth
and more focus on YOU. Make sure you incorporate your personal experiences and
connections and make direct, concrete connections between them and what you've
found in the book. How can it help you transform, if it hasn't already?
Please write in my English American level: I went to the Deaf school and then I learnt what Deaf
world was like, which fits my life well. Today I'm still learning the deepest of Deaf culture. Being Deaf
can’t be the main barrier to lead to the failure of the big life dreams that I have. My life has been
affected in various ways because of my status but that doesn’t make me fail in making my own
decisions on my life. Learning about the Deaf characters and culture has made me view my status in
a positive manner making me think on the privileges that the society has offered to me by giving me
a chance to utilize the important privileges delegated to me. Though the society has offered several
positive privileges to the Deaf, some of the people focus much on empowering the underprivileged
hence hindering the Deaf from making special developments in their lives.When I was in a hearing
school, I often felt overwhelmed and wanted to avoid studying and never wanted to go to college. My
parents tried to convince me that school was extremely important, but I did not listen to them. One
day, I told my mother that I wanted to receive a better education in a deaf school, and my mother did
not want me to go to a deaf school because she believed that I did not care about education for my
life. A few days later, I felt so disappointed that I was forced to learn unwanted lessons. I decided to
keep telling my mother my goal was to go to a deaf school and my mother finally accepted it. I
started to be joyful at that news and readied for a better education. As a college student, I applied for
City college of San Francisco to learn more English and general studies and then transferred to the
University. I am majoring in communication and public relations and minor in digital media. I
personally love working with people, I feel very happy seeing them satisfied with their present and
looking forward to their future, and I love learning different cultures, backgrounds, beliefs, traditions,
and many things that I have never learnt before, although what i really would be glad to add to my
personal experience is developing a new project, to develop a new website to make the hearing and
Deaf worlds one unit so they will be able to communicate with each other to learn about their
different worlds.My major is Communication and my minors are Digital Media and Family studies
part of my passion is to do my research and analysis on negative things and change them in a
positive way. I went there for class and felt "wow" about the building and respect different religions. I
love learning different things. I am majoring in communication and minoring in public relations and
family studies, I personally love working with people, I feel very happy seeing them satisfied with
their present and looking forward to their future, I love learning different cultures, backgrounds,
beliefs, traditions, and many things that I have never learnt before. My goal to make the hearing and
Deaf worlds one unit so they will be able to communicate with each other to learn about their
different worlds and so that we can get more opportunities. I am wondering if I can volunteer for one
week-on August 18 until 25 and then after, I will take my time to socialize with different people. It
would be a great experience for me. Thank you. Hope to hear from you soon. I would like to make a
new website which looks somewhat like Facebook and Couchsurfing which serves both the Deaf
and Hearing people whatever race and religion they are, everybody can join the social media and
make new friends all over the world which will allow the possibility of making new friends, having a
familiar face to visit outside your country, have a person guide you around a new city to learn new
things like Deaf and Hearing cultures, countries' history, cultures, foods and etc.
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HOW IS THIS A REFLECTION? WHAT DID WE DO THAT MADE YOU WRITE THIS?
WHAT ARE YOU REFERRING TO? WHERE IS YOUR CITATION? YOU CLEARLY
DIDN’T WRITE THIS?
#1 Reflection
First and foremost communication with the deaf people is practically simple if only you have
the ability to access the communication services, for instance the CART or the interpreters. The
major significant factor to recall is to inquire from them, the deaf, what predisposition he or she
perceive assisting. However it might be annoying interacting with such people and an individual
may be impatient and yell to them. Instead of all that, one ought to relax and avoid emphasizing
the facial expressions which in turn minimizes communication. Additionally, you should try as
much as possible to make eye contact when speaking to them and if perhaps the person prefers
speech speaking, speak normally and try avoid fast or slow speaking.
Basically, in order to get a deaf person’s attention every individual ought to move into the
visual field the gently tap on the person’s shoulder then flick lights at a medium pace since at a
faster pace, it may portray an emergency. Thereafter, you may inquire the deaf on other
techniques and ways that he or she prefers in order to capture the attention. Preferably, when
communicating with a group setting of deaf people you ought to provide them with an agenda
that will simplify their ways to follow up and understand what is being communicated.
Nevertheless, one should ensure the environment is not noisy and arrange the place at a
chronological manner from them to see each other clearly. During emergency when
communicating one should apply several tips such as the Deaf nod where as you ask questions
they nod to imply it’s a yes when conversing. Large and fast gestures indicates that the deaf
person is under stress and his or her emotional levels are too high. Finally it’s always interesting
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to communicate with such kind of individuals and they ought to be prioritized and given
opportunities to our society today.
ONCE AGAIN, TRYING TO UNDERSTAND THE BASIS FOR YOUR REFLECTION. DID
WE DISCUSS SOMETHING IN CLASS THAT LED YOU TO WRITE THIS? WHAT DID
YOU REFER TO WHEN WRITING THIS? WHAT ARE SOME PRINCIPLES YOU CAN
CONNECT TO CLASS DISCUSSIONS/TEXTBOOK CONTENT? AND THIS IS
REFLECTION #3? IT’S LABELED AS REFLECTION #2.
#2 Reflection.
Generally, majority use social media as a technique to pass time in their day to day lives.
Nevertheless it is considered to be a way to get in touch with other individual who practically are
not with us, for instance, people from various countries all over the world. However for the deaf,
social media, a great Example, Twitter, is not just to pass time but instead considered as lifeline
for them to express their value within other individuals. Firstly, with Twitter, the deaf are able to
get updated with the latest news despite their inability to interact verbally with family and
friends. Additionally, twitter provides updates which they read easily and at some point get to be
the first to know whatever is happening currently.
Secondly, safety has been an issue in our world today in that we can see at some point power
unexpectedly cut hence majority relied on radio as a source of updates. But the great worry came
up when we questioned ourselves, what action will you take when you aren’t able to listen to
them. A good example is the #DarkNL tragedy. Twitter, during the whole time, was a platform
where the police officers and NFPowers hand in hand with other reporters were tweeting. Their
tweets shared images and location on warming centers for people. Basically, all that was said on
radio was on Twitter as well indicating free access to what is happening.
Conversing can be highly exhaustive with the deaf since they mainly majored on lip-reading
and gestures most times. However digital media creates a good platform for people to easily
communicate in depth with friends and family thus keep the deaf moving when communication
is no longer a barrier, after all, the purpose and presence of this digital media is being social.
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