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Samantha Poulus
Professor Schmitt
English 110
25 February 2018
Child Vs. Parents Communication Issue
Communication is an essential tool in the development of a cordial relationship between
a parent and child. It is also an avenue of expressing one’s concerns to the other and therefore is
very crucial in obtaining emotional support whenever one has a problem. However, despite this
need for communication between these two, communication barricade that may exist between
parents and their children becomes a problem not as they develop and adapt to what they see as
right and wrong but also due to obstacles that thwart their communication abilities to each other.
The first obstacle that may impede communication between a parent and a child is
domestic violence and or child abuse. When abuse characterizes the relationship between a
parent and child, it very likely that the child will be withdrawn and will not freely express their
fears or concerns to the parents. The fact is that such children will see their parents as “evil” and
will in return rather confide in other people from the outside like a friend or the teacher. Again,
when the family is faced with domestic violence, the child will feel restrained from their parents
(Hyde, Abbey, et al. 3440). Mostly it is fathers who are responsible for domestic violence, and
therefore their children end up fearing them and can’t even approach them when they have an
issue that is disturbing them.
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Consequently, drug and substance abuse is another obstacle that may hinder proper
communication between parents and their children. When one or both of the parents is involved
in drug abuse, the child will always feel insecure about them and fear their parents regularly. The
result is that such children never find the courage to express their concerns to their parents. Such
parents become less caring and loving to their children, and this worsens the problem. Moreover,
drug taking is commonly associated with violence, and this furthers the gap between a parent and
their children regarding communication (Hyde, Abbey, et al. 3445). Emotionally, the children in
such a family are emotionally hurt and would instead tell their concerns and problems to outside
people since they have grown to fear their parents instead of drawing closer to them.
Further work is another obstacle that hinders communication between a child and their
parents. In their early stages of development, children require the most time to be with their
parents for proper bonding to be created. However, most jobs are demanding in term of time, and
many parents find themselves in a situation whereby they spend little or no time at all with their
children. Such children grow up feeling that there is a gap in between them and their parents.
The result is that such a child will not feel to talk to their parents as they grown used to living
alone and managing their problems on their own. In fact, work has been shown as the most
significant contributing factor to the bad relationships between parents and their children. In
other times, it leads to family breakups whereby the child will not have much time with one of
the parents.
Moreover, peer influence is another factor that causes poor communication between a
child and parent. When children indulge themselves in some activities with their peers, the
likelihood is that they will be influenced not to spend much time with their parents as most will
feel unstylish to confide in their parents. Most the activities that bring young people together is
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drug abuse, violence, and other lewd acts. Such children find less or no time to talk to their
parents about anything that they feel is troubling them. Instead, they talk to their peers who most
often give them misleading advice.
However, some strategies or steps be taken to overcome this problem of poor
communication between parents and their children. Firstly, parents involved in domestic and
child abuse need to seek professional guidance and counseling. They can get this help from a
psychiatrist who will help gradually overcome violence in their families. Such advice is useful as
it will help the parents see the need of talking to their parents and encouraging their children to
speak to them freely about anything affecting them.
Again, for those parents working in time-demanding jobs, they should talk to their bosses
about finding for them some time-off or leaves which they can use to compensate for the time
that they don’t spend with their children. This will be useful as it will create the confidence in the
children when talking to their parents. Furthermore, it will enable the parents to identify anything
that may be affecting their children. As for those parents engaged in drug and substance, they
need to be involved in a rehabilitation program which will help them overcome using drugs. As a
result, they will find more time to talk to their children. Further, children involved in drug talking
and violence acts should also be taken for rehabilitation and help them recover. Hence, both
parties will see the need to communicate with each other.
In conclusion, communication is vital for a parent and child for proper development of
the right relationship. However, it is continuously faced with some obstacles that hinder adequate
disclosure as discussed in the essay. But some strategies or steps can be taken to overcome this
problem as discussed above.
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Works Cited
Hyde, Abbey, et al. "Parents' constructions of communication with their children about safer
sex." Journal of clinical nursing22.23-24 (2013): 3438-3446.
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Samantha Poulus
English 110
4 March 2018
Responsibilities of men have become obsolete
I agree with the argument that most men’s admirable qualities have become obsolete
because the demise of our past culture became the demise of these qualities as well and if things
do not change, most men will remain devastated and scared little children hiding at the wings of
their parents. The identification of this problem has been prompted by the rise of women in the
society; it would be hard to notice that a man is not performing his required duties at a certain
age if women were still housewives and babysitters. The roles of men in our culture have
become obsolete and this is extremely embarrassing because there is nothing to expect from the
future generation (Ames, Melissa 2014).
The roles bestowed upon men are different from those of women because men have
high expectations. It is almost a universal rule that girls become women only when they
physically mature but boys become men through acts of courage, power, responsibility and
mastering multiple skills of life. This cultural rule was implemented to ensure that they are able
to protect women and children but women have risen and do not need the protection of men,
some women have chosen to become single and becoming a father to men is not an option.
Women are more motivated than men; this is largely because they have been
through oppression for a long time. Decades ago, education for women was optional, 1 out of
20 women got a privilege of going to school and this is not the case with men. Men had the
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privilege from the advent of education, they do not see it as a new thing and as a result, women
are working harder to beat their social status while men hang around with devastation and
frustration of who, and what to become.
Most men do not think beyond themselves, the good qualities of men have been lost
because most of them are still over-reliant on their parents. Boys have grown up full of
answers about life and they become narcissistic, they lose their responsibilities by thinking that
they should be constantly praised and admired, failing to recognize other people’s emotions,
failing to keep a healthy relationship and exaggerating their talents. Growing up thinking that
they know everything about life has kept them in the dark (Haines, Elizabeth, Kay, Nicole 2014).
Men no longer take responsibilities for their lives and set their own standards. It is
practically true that parents have been setting standards expected to be met by their children even
at the age of 30. This is devastating because men cannot become who they want to be and the
rise of women has fostered the thought that men are no longer needed as a result; most of them
are living in the basements of their parents. Men do not take challenges and go out of their own
way because they do not see the need any more (Kimmel, Michael 2017).
Most men hate commitments and responsibilities and as a result, they cannot stay in
a healthy relationship. Men have been made to believe that relationships and marriages are a
sentence and a killer of freedom and ambition. This is completely wrong because as a result, men
cannot sustain relationships or marriages. Men do not believe that they can find a spouse of a
girlfriend who can support their ambitions and work with them, additionally, they are used to the
ides of infidelity and do not see it as a big thing.
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1. I am proud of my essay it gets the point through perfectly and it does not fail to explain
the thesis through each paragraph. It answers the question that I choose and it includes
very in depth details.
2. I think I need to do better with organizing my paper, I know that whenever I get an idea I
write it down as soon as I think of it, I soon discover that it does not fit in that paragraph
and by the end of the paper I did not know where these Ideas should belong, so
eventually I would either leave it, knowing it would be in the wrong paragraph or I would
delete it as a whole
3. I want to hear about my word choice and if I got my idea through to my audience, I want
to know if I am clear in my papers, and if my ideas are all over the place
Responsibilities of men have become obsolete
I agree with the argument that most men’s admirable qualities have become obsolete
because the demise of our past culture became the demise of these qualities as well and if things
do not change, most men will remain devastated and scared little children hiding at the wings of
their parents. The identification of this problem has been prompted by the rise of women in the
society; it would be hard to notice that a man is not performing his required duties at a certain
age if women were still housewives and babysitters. The roles of men in our culture have
become obsolete and this is extremely embarrassing because there is nothing to expect from the
future generation (Ames, Melissa 2014).
The roles bestowed upon men are different from those of women because men have
high expectations. It is almost a universal rule that girls become women only when they
physically mature but boys become men through acts of courage, power, responsibility and
mastering multiple skills of life. This cultural rule was implemented to ensure that they are able
to protect women and children but women have risen and do not need the protection of men,
some women have chosen to become single and becoming a father to men is not an option.
Women are more motivated than men; this is largely because they have been
through oppression for a long time. Decades ago, education for women was optional, 1 out of
20 women got a privilege of going to school and this is not the case with men. Men had the
privilege from the advent of education, they do not see it as a new thing and as a result, women
are working harder to beat their social status while men hang around with devastation and
frustration of who, and what to become.
Most men do not think beyond themselves, the good qualities of men have been lost
because most of them are still over-reliant on their parents. Boys have grown up full of
answers about life and they become narcissistic, they lose their responsibilities by thinking that
they should be constantly praised and admired, failing to recognize other people’s emotions,
failing to keep a healthy relationship and exaggerating their talents. Growing up thinking that
they know everything about life has kept them in the dark (Haines, Elizabeth, Kay, Nicole 2014).
Men no longer take responsibilities for their lives and set their own standards. It is
practically true that parents have been setting standards expected to be met by their children even
at the age of 30. This is devastating because men cannot become who they want to be and the
rise of women has fostered the thought that men are no longer needed as a result; most of them
are living in the basements of their parents. Men do not take challenges and go out of their own
way because they do not see the need any more (Kimmel, Michael 2017).
Most men hate commitments and responsibilities and as a result, they cannot stay in
a healthy relationship. Men have been made to believe that relationships and marriages are a
sentence and a killer of freedom and ambition. This is completely wrong because as a result, men
cannot sustain relationships or marriages. Men do not believe that they can find a spouse of a
girlfriend who can support their ambitions and work with them, additionally, they are used to the
ides of infidelity and do not see it as a big thing.
1. I am proud of my essay it gets the point through perfectly and it does not fail to explain
the thesis through each paragraph. It answers the question that I choose and it includes
very in depth details.
2. I think I need to do better with organizing my paper, I know that whenever I get an idea I
write it down as soon as I think of it, I soon discover that it does not fit in that paragraph
and by the end of the paper I did not know where these Ideas should belong, so
eventually I would either leave it, knowing it would be in the wrong paragraph or I would
delete it as a whole
3. I want to hear about my word choice and if I got my idea through to my audience, I want
to know if I am clear in my papers, and if my ideas are all over the place
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