Poulus 1 Samantha Poulus Professor Schmitt English 110 25 February 2018 Child Vs. Parents Communication Issue Communication is an essential tool in the development of a cordial relationship between a parent and child. It is also an avenue of expressing one’s concerns to the other and therefore is very crucial in obtaining emotional support whenever one has a problem. However, despite this need for communication between these two, communication barricade that may exist between parents and their children becomes a problem not as they develop and adapt to what they see as right and wrong but also due to obstacles that thwart their communication abilities to each other. The first obstacle that may impede communication between a parent and a child is domestic violence and or child abuse. When abuse characterizes the relationship between a parent and child, it very likely that the child will be withdrawn and will not freely express their fears or concerns to the parents. The fact is that such children will see their parents as “evil” and will in return rather confide in other people from the outside like a friend or the teacher. Again, when the family is faced with domestic violence, the child will feel restrained from their parents (Hyde, Abbey, et al. 3440). Mostly it is fathers who are responsible for domestic violence, and therefore their children end up fearing them and can’t even approach them when they have an issue that is disturbing them. Poulus 2 Consequently, drug and substance abuse is another obstacle that may hinder proper communication between parents and their children. When one or both of the parents is involved in drug abuse, the child will always feel insecure about them and fear their parents regularly. The result is that such children never find the courage to express their concerns to their parents. Such parents become less caring and loving to their children, and this worsens the problem. Moreover, drug taking is commonly associated with violence, and this furthers the gap between a parent and their children regarding communication (Hyde, Abbey, et al. 3445). Emotionally, the children in such a family are emotionally hurt and would instead tell their concerns and problems to outside people since they have grown to fear their parents instead of drawing closer to them. Further work is another obstacle that hinders communication between a child and their parents. In their early stages of development, children require the most time to be with their parents for proper bonding to be created. However, most jobs are demanding in term of time, and many parents find themselves in a situation whereby they spend little or no time at all with their children. Such children grow up feeling that there is a gap in between them and their parents. The result is that such a child will not feel to talk to their parents as they grown used to living alone and managing their problems on their own. In fact, work has been shown as the most significant contributing factor to the bad relationships between parents and their children. In other times, it leads to family breakups whereby the child will not have much time with one of the parents. Moreover, peer influence is another factor that causes poor communication between a child and parent. When children indulge themselves in some activities with their peers, the likelihood is that they will be influenced not to spend much time with their parents as most will feel unstylish to confide in their parents. Most the activities that bring young people together is Poulus 3 drug abuse, violence, and other lewd acts. Such children find less or no time to talk to their parents about anything that they feel is troubling them. Instead, they talk to their peers who most often give them misleading advice. However, some strategies or steps be taken to overcome this problem of poor communication between parents and their children. Firstly, parents involved in domestic and child abuse need to seek professional guidance and counseling. They can get this help from a psychiatrist who will help gradually overcome violence in their families. Such advice is useful as it will help the parents see the need of talking to their parents and encouraging their children to speak to them freely about anything affecting them. Again, for those parents working in time-demanding jobs, they should talk to their bosses about finding for them some time-off or leaves which they can use to compensate for the time that they don’t spend with their children. This will be useful as it will create the confidence in the children when talking to their parents. Furthermore, it will enable the parents to identify anything that may be affecting their children. As for those parents engaged in drug and substance, they need to be involved in a rehabilitation program which will help them overcome using drugs. As a result, they will find more time to talk to their children. Further, children involved in drug talking and violence acts should also be taken for rehabilitation and help them recover. Hence, both parties will see the need to communicate with each other. In conclusion, communication is vital for a parent and child for proper development of the right relationship. However, it is continuously faced with some obstacles that hinder adequate disclosure as discussed in the essay. But some strategies or steps can be taken to overcome this problem as discussed above. Poulus 4 Works Cited Hyde, Abbey, et al. "Parents' constructions of communication with their children about safer sex." Journal of clinical nursing22.23-24 (2013): 3438-3446. Poulus 1 Samantha Poulus English 110 4 March 2018 Responsibilities of men have become obsolete I agree with the argument that most men’s admirable qualities have become obsolete because the demise of our past culture became the demise of these qualities as well and if things do not change, most men will remain devastated and scared little children hiding at the wings of their parents. The identification of this problem has been prompted by the rise of women in the society; it would be hard to notice that a man is not performing his required duties at a certain age if women were still housewives and babysitters. The roles of men in our culture have become obsolete and this is extremely embarrassing because there is nothing to expect from the future generation (Ames, Melissa 2014). The roles bestowed upon men are different from those of women because men have high expectations. It is almost a universal rule that girls become women only when they physically mature but boys become men through acts of courage, power, responsibility and mastering multiple skills of life. This cultural rule was implemented to ensure that they are able to protect women and children but women have risen and do not need the protection of men, some women have chosen to become single and becoming a father to men is not an option. Women are more motivated than men; this is largely because they have been through oppression for a long time. Decades ago, education for women was optional, 1 out of 20 women got a privilege of going to school and this is not the case with men. Men had the Poulus 2 privilege from the advent of education, they do not see it as a new thing and as a result, women are working harder to beat their social status while men hang around with devastation and frustration of who, and what to become. Most men do not think beyond themselves, the good qualities of men have been lost because most of them are still over-reliant on their parents. Boys have grown up full of answers about life and they become narcissistic, they lose their responsibilities by thinking that they should be constantly praised and admired, failing to recognize other people’s emotions, failing to keep a healthy relationship and exaggerating their talents. Growing up thinking that they know everything about life has kept them in the dark (Haines, Elizabeth, Kay, Nicole 2014). Men no longer take responsibilities for their lives and set their own standards. It is practically true that parents have been setting standards expected to be met by their children even at the age of 30. This is devastating because men cannot become who they want to be and the rise of women has fostered the thought that men are no longer needed as a result; most of them are living in the basements of their parents. Men do not take challenges and go out of their own way because they do not see the need any more (Kimmel, Michael 2017). Most men hate commitments and responsibilities and as a result, they cannot stay in a healthy relationship. Men have been made to believe that relationships and marriages are a sentence and a killer of freedom and ambition. This is completely wrong because as a result, men cannot sustain relationships or marriages. Men do not believe that they can find a spouse of a girlfriend who can support their ambitions and work with them, additionally, they are used to the ides of infidelity and do not see it as a big thing. Poulus 3 1. I am proud of my essay it gets the point through perfectly and it does not fail to explain the thesis through each paragraph. It answers the question that I choose and it includes very in depth details. 2. I think I need to do better with organizing my paper, I know that whenever I get an idea I write it down as soon as I think of it, I soon discover that it does not fit in that paragraph and by the end of the paper I did not know where these Ideas should belong, so eventually I would either leave it, knowing it would be in the wrong paragraph or I would delete it as a whole 3. I want to hear about my word choice and if I got my idea through to my audience, I want to know if I am clear in my papers, and if my ideas are all over the place Responsibilities of men have become obsolete I agree with the argument that most men’s admirable qualities have become obsolete because the demise of our past culture became the demise of these qualities as well and if things do not change, most men will remain devastated and scared little children hiding at the wings of their parents. The identification of this problem has been prompted by the rise of women in the society; it would be hard to notice that a man is not performing his required duties at a certain age if women were still housewives and babysitters. The roles of men in our culture have become obsolete and this is extremely embarrassing because there is nothing to expect from the future generation (Ames, Melissa 2014). The roles bestowed upon men are different from those of women because men have high expectations. It is almost a universal rule that girls become women only when they physically mature but boys become men through acts of courage, power, responsibility and mastering multiple skills of life. This cultural rule was implemented to ensure that they are able to protect women and children but women have risen and do not need the protection of men, some women have chosen to become single and becoming a father to men is not an option. Women are more motivated than men; this is largely because they have been through oppression for a long time. Decades ago, education for women was optional, 1 out of 20 women got a privilege of going to school and this is not the case with men. Men had the privilege from the advent of education, they do not see it as a new thing and as a result, women are working harder to beat their social status while men hang around with devastation and frustration of who, and what to become. Most men do not think beyond themselves, the good qualities of men have been lost because most of them are still over-reliant on their parents. Boys have grown up full of answers about life and they become narcissistic, they lose their responsibilities by thinking that they should be constantly praised and admired, failing to recognize other people’s emotions, failing to keep a healthy relationship and exaggerating their talents. Growing up thinking that they know everything about life has kept them in the dark (Haines, Elizabeth, Kay, Nicole 2014). Men no longer take responsibilities for their lives and set their own standards. It is practically true that parents have been setting standards expected to be met by their children even at the age of 30. This is devastating because men cannot become who they want to be and the rise of women has fostered the thought that men are no longer needed as a result; most of them are living in the basements of their parents. Men do not take challenges and go out of their own way because they do not see the need any more (Kimmel, Michael 2017). Most men hate commitments and responsibilities and as a result, they cannot stay in a healthy relationship. Men have been made to believe that relationships and marriages are a sentence and a killer of freedom and ambition. This is completely wrong because as a result, men cannot sustain relationships or marriages. Men do not believe that they can find a spouse of a girlfriend who can support their ambitions and work with them, additionally, they are used to the ides of infidelity and do not see it as a big thing. 1. I am proud of my essay it gets the point through perfectly and it does not fail to explain the thesis through each paragraph. It answers the question that I choose and it includes very in depth details. 2. I think I need to do better with organizing my paper, I know that whenever I get an idea I write it down as soon as I think of it, I soon discover that it does not fit in that paragraph and by the end of the paper I did not know where these Ideas should belong, so eventually I would either leave it, knowing it would be in the wrong paragraph or I would delete it as a whole 3. I want to hear about my word choice and if I got my idea through to my audience, I want to know if I am clear in my papers, and if my ideas are all over the place
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