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PSY 2012 Marriage True Feelings Love and Desire Paper

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Maria Trebol Rojas
Prof. Jessica Aubuchon
PSY 2012
03 June 2021
Secretes of Desire
I have come to appreciate the paradox of love and desire. In our contemporary culture,
we exalt love as the final and ultimate outcome of a relationship. Marriage, the oldest institution,
is the ultimate expression of love. Therefore, when two people in a union filled with love marry,
then their life should be fulfilled and without want. However, that is further from the truth. For
instance, if marriage was so fulfilling, there would be no skyrocketing divorce rates in our
society. The main cause of divorce has to do with desire. Partners often recall how their marriage
was exciting before it became rocky. There’s an element that existed at the beginning of the
marriage that withers over time and makes the marriage turn sour. In almost all cases, it has to do
with a want for pleasure in its various forms. The truth is people want to experience desire.
Desire is selfish while love is selfless. From childhood to adulthood, we are constantly
taught that the basic elemental nature of love is to be selfless. Therefore, you should care for
your partner and put yourself in their shoes to better understand their needs. Therefore, love
resonates with aspects of responsibility, reciprocity, and protection to supplying the needs of the
partner. However, the concomitant elements of love tend to stifle our desire to explore. For
instance, love despises jealousy, possessiveness, mischief, aggression, power, dominance.
Consequently, contemporary culture teaches us to relegate elements of desire to psychological
symptoms of mental illness. Therefore, I find it compelling to consider love and desire as two
issues in human nature on the opposite ends of our existential spectrum.

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I wish to apply some semblance of erotic intelligence in my long-term relationship. Our
culture exalts love but fails to provide the platform to interrogate the place and importance of
desire in our lives. It is, therefore, up to every one of us to create the space for the erotic, the
explicit, in our relationships. I believe I can communicate that to my partner by cultivating
unbridled playfulness, novelty, and curiosity to sustain desire.

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Trebol 1 Maria Trebol Rojas Prof. Jessica Aubuchon PSY 2012 03 June 2021 Secretes of Desire I have come to appreciate the paradox of love and desire. In our contemporary culture, we exalt love as the final and ultimate outcome of a relationship. Marriage, the oldest institution, is the ultimate expression of love. Therefore, when two people in a union filled with love marry, then their life should be fulfilled and without want. However, that is further from the truth. For instance, if marriage was so fulfilling, there would be no skyrocketing divorce rates in our society. The main cause of divorce has to do with desire. Partners often recall how their marriage was exciting before it became rocky. There’s an element that existed at the beginning of the marriage that withers over time and makes the marriage turn sour. In almost all cases, it has to do with a want for pleasure in its vari ...
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