below is a review of Chapter 17 of Virgina Satir's book, The New Peoplemaking. I have provided you with a few questions covering 4 different topics. I need 4 brief responses for each 4 points .
1.) In chapter 17, Satir talks about how adults forget that children can be of immense help and importance within the family dynamic. The more everyone participates, the more each feels an ownership in the family and the less any one person feels overburdened. In your families, were you assigned specific chores to fulfill or did your families limit the amount of help you contributed by making comments such as "Women are not strong enough to help" or "This is a man's job?"
2.) Some families expect that a plan, once made, will stay in force forever. For example, a family may have expectations that a child is to be in bed by 8:30 PM no matter what, whether the child is four or fourteen. Obviously, when a child is fourteen years old, this rule is out-of-date, so I'm curious to see the comparison of rules you had growing up as a child vs. the rules that might still be applicable in your family today. What kind of rules were enforced in your family growing up? As young adults that still live with their parent(s), do you feel like there are rules that you still need to follow? Are they age appropriate?
3.) Another point that I want to touch on is family time. We all have our own busy lives to attend to with work, school and other activities that crowd our schedule. How much family time does your family have? In the time that you share with your family, what do you all do together? As important as it is to have family time, every person needs time to be alone. Mothers in particular feel guilty if they wish to have alone time because they feel as if they are taking something away from the family. Do you feel like you take enough time for yourself or is there a sense of guilt when you indulge in alone time?
4.) The last point I want to mention in Chapter 17 was how Satir talks about time. She talks about how she was brought up on the sacredness of time and if she were late, she would be punished. No matter what, she had to be on time and without knowing or realizing this, the clock ran her life. Instead of it being her aid, it becomes her master. Growing up, did your family have a rigid schedule that was timely and orderly? Do you feel like because of how time was instilled in your family, do you currently find yourself either feeling very rigid or careless in regards to doing things at a certain time?