Cleaning Out My ClosetAmy R. DallasPSY 202Dr. Justin LawrenceFebruary 24, 2012My life began on February 10, 1975. I have an older brother and both parents are alive and well. I have had wonderful times in my life and bad times that have out-weighed those good times that I am learning to cope with on a daily basis. It has not been easy, but I have confidence that I will get to a point in my life that I can make decisions that are best for me and not always about everyone else. "One of the biggest psychosocial challenges that we face in life is mastery of our various roles." (Witt, G.A., & Mossler, R.A. (2010) Adult Learning and Life Assessment section 4.2)I will learn to say no and stand up for myself which I have never been able to do. The two people that are very important in my life have caused heartache between each other and I have had to make decisions that are not easy. Unfortunately, the two people are my husband and my mother. I am not in a healthy marriage nor am I in a healthy relationship with my mother. I am hoping that I can make my relationships in the future work for the best of me. "The most resilient people recover from traumatic experiences stronger, better, and wiser." (Siebert)It was 1986; my family and I lived in a small college town in Oklahoma. I was 11 years old and in 6th grade. I just got home from band practice and as I walked in the door I saw my dad, who worked late nights as a truck driver, was sitting at the kitchen table.