In this chapter, the author provides different situations in which a person can forfeit their happiness for the sake of others. For example, women tend to value the happiness of others more than their own by trying to be good employees, wives, daughters, or mothers, among other things. According to Hollis, women need to be selfish to achieve most of their dreams. This does not mean they should be overly selfish, but instead try to create a balance between working for others and working on their personal ambitions. A balance between work and life tends to be difficult because work accounts for most of the time in our daily lives, and urges all women to always find time for personal growth. Unlike what many people claim, it is very possible to be a good mother, wife, daughter, or girlfriend, and still chase personal goals. Opinions that claim otherwise are, according to Hollis, negative energy meant to eat into one’s psychological peace, which forces them to conform to societal stereotypes like “good mothers should only concentrate on bringing up children”.