In this chapter, Hollis emphasizes the need for women to be free in making their own choices and decisions. The author accounts how she was brought up by a dad who was so domineering, who only wanted to be made happy all the time. Hollis carried this mentality into her marriage and would strive to make her husband happy anytime he was upset, even if she was not the one who had made him angry. This continued until the day her husband assured her that she did not have to bother herself over each of his feelings. It was only at this time did it occur to her that, unlike what she had been brought up to believe, her entire life was not all about pleasing people. Therefore, Hollis tells women that they should not tie themselves down to the idea of always striving to please people.