This could be argued as being the main theme of the book. For many years, women have been seen not living to their full potential partly due to male dominance in most areas, as well as due to the fear of failing, or falling short of expectations. Throughout the book, Hollis is sending a wake-up call to women, urging them to cease acting or living under the shadows of other people — be it their own parents, husbands, or friends. She urges women to be confident of themselves and pursue their own dreams without caring about other people’s opinions. To achieve this, Hollis illustrates — in detail — some of the behaviors to adopt, the skills to build, and the excuses to drop. Furthermore, she is urging women to be supportive of one another, to adopt leadership roles, and light up the way for other women.