Unf*ck Yourself
Gary John Bishop
Contributed by Micheal Celestin
Chapter 1

The author begins by posing a question to the readers asking them if they have ever felt like a hamster on a wheel furiously churning their way through life but somehow going nowhere. He expounds his point by identifying a constant internal chatter and judgment that never stops (Bishop 8). According to Bishop, a little voice in many individuals usually tells them that they are lazy or stupid or are not good enough. He adds that this little voice always drains people to great degrees by forcing them to keep on working every day with the belief that if they do not work they may not get their life desires (Bishop 8). Due to this, the author dedicates his work to the people who always experience a self-defeating monolog, doubt, and subterfuge that limits and taints their everyday lives.

Gary Bishop notes two kinds of talk people engage in every day: talking to others and talking to oneself (Bishop 8). He also affirms that there are individuals who insist that they do not talk to themselves. The author supports his ideology by giving various instances when individuals conduct monolog highlighting occurrences such as while eating, exercising, texting, crying and writing among others. Apart from, the author uses the research conducted by Professor Will Hart of the University of Alabama and other philosophers as a basis for his work. From the professor’s experiments, Bishop notes that the language people use to describe their circumstances usually determines how they see, experience and participate in those situations. In addition, he claims that it dramatically affects how the individuals deal with their lives and confront problems both big and small (Bishop 9).

Besides, the author tries to connect emotions and thoughts. He uses a quote from Albert Ellis on the issue saying that the way people think and talk about their experiences usually shifts the way they feel about them (Bishop 10). Ideally, Bishop expounds on the negative self-talk experienced by many individuals. He says that this kind of self-talk may be disempowering and often makes easy things seems hard or even impossible (Bishop 11). Therefore, the nature of self-talk used affects the possibility of a success or a failure in life issues. Apart from that, the author also talks about perception and the change caused by language. Usually, the perception held by different individuals in various situations determines how those individuals perform in those situations. Bishop says that talking about how “unfair life is” makes one start acting according to that view (Bishop 12). However, he asserts that the people who perceive success to be just around the corner always work hard to achieve it and they always end up succeeding in their endeavors.

Bishop applauds the phenomenon that thoughts can actually change the physical structure of the brain saying that it is revolutionizing the way people think about the human mind (Bishop 13). Ideally, he believes that people can determine their emotions by steering their thoughts. He claims that it is possible if people remain conscious and diligent about their words and the kind of language they engage in (Bishop 13). Therefore, the author encourages the readers to be assertive by immediately doing what they need to do instead of saying that they will do it later (Bishop 14).


Self-talk is something experienced by every individual in the world. Although some people may deny having monolog experiences, it is clear that the situation is part of humanity and no one can elude it. Therefore, Gary John Bishop decides to use this fact of human life as a foundation for his work since it is relevant and equally important. Ideally, the thoughts an individual has usually determine his or her actions thus directly affecting the choices and decisions made in the entire life. The author successfully expresses his opinions and ideologies by considering the realities of life. He uses the works of different individuals such as scientists and psychologist to support his ideas. Mentioning Professor Will Hart’s work is a way of showing the relevance of the book, and the importance of reading it through. Bishop also uses humor at various points in the book to make it more lively and fun reading.

Apart from that, the author seems to understand the way emotions and thoughts relate. He covers both negative and positive thinking, giving his opinions on the outcomes of both the two modes of thinking. He puts it clear that people develop habits from the thoughts, and one may lead a difficult life just by making the wrong thoughts. He uses the example of chores considering how some people make simple things such as offloading the dishwasher difficult. Ideally, this happens in the minds, and repeating the same mode of thinking over time makes it a habit and thus a reality. Nonetheless, it may be easy to make the right choices through positive thinking. Bishop shows the reader this by talking about the people who view success as something around the corner. He affirms that these individuals always work hard and they definitely achieve success due to their positive thinking. Therefore, it is clear that the author requires his audience to consider the relationship between emotions and thoughts thus leading good lives and achieving success in different life situations.

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