Unf*ck Yourself
Gary John Bishop
Contributed by Micheal Celestin
Chapter 3

Gary Bishop begins this chapter by saying that a person is always winning at the life he or she has. He declares that everyone is a champion at the life they have since they knock out goals after goals with everything they set their minds into coming true (Bishop 31). Bishop notes that his words may seem confusing. Therefore, he explains his point using a person looking for love. He says that the love story may never work out as expected, but it is always a glorious win depending on the life one has (Bishop 32). The author explains his point by saying that one is a winner even in the failed relationship since he or she achieved exactly what he or she set out to accomplish in the first place (Bishop 33). Ideally, Bishop gives various issues that show an individual as a winner in the failed situation. In addition, he affirms that it is not only in relationships but also in other life issues such as career life, fitness, finances and all the other things that people do (Bishop 33).

The author shares the findings of Dr. Bruce Lipton that the subconscious controls 95% of what people do in their day-to-day life (Bishop 34). In relation to this, the writer claims that people always win in their domains. He believes that an individual who makes sixty thousand dollars a year is not so different from the one making thirty thousand a year. This is because forty hours of work a week is forty hours irrespective of the individual (Bishop 34). Therefore, Bishop claims that the subconscious guides people into playing in their domains and avoiding other domains even though the person may be unwilling. Nevertheless, the writer believes that what it takes to move out of one domain requires some significant changes to one’s automatic place (Bishop 35). Further, the author talks about finding one’s winning edge. On this point, Bishop says that people should check at their problems and their areas of struggle. Everyone should ask themselves the reasons for winning on those negative issues. From that point, they can set themselves to win in the productive areas such as acquiring more money or having good relationships. This success will come by one proving the firmly held negative beliefs wrong (Bishop 36).

Lastly, Bishop insists on having a game plan to help transform the problematic areas in one’s life. He says that the first step in creating the game plan is thinking about the areas in need of change. Secondly, one has to take the goals and break them down by defining the necessary steps required for the accomplishment (Bishop 38). After that, one has to go through the daily kind of actions needed to practice until it becomes a reality. This also involves considering the changes in mindset one needs to make during and after the quest. Nevertheless, the author says that the future is not the answer to the present and one should not think that everything will change to be good all of a sudden (Bishop 39). Therefore, one should define his or her game plan, embrace the challenges and strive to understand him/herself in deeper and more meaningful ways.


This chapter shows Bishop’s belief that everyone is a winner. Ideally, the author is able to define his believes since he considers that everyone is a winner in his or her own domain. He affirms his words by saying that people play in different domains thus the existing diversity in accomplishments and achievements. The different examples used by Bishop are his way of making his work more understandable to the reader. By mentioning the research done by Dr. Bruce Lipton, the author is trying to accomplish the relevance of his ideas, showing the reader that his points are informed and effective. Apart from that, Gary Bishop uses the income made by different people who work for the same number of hours a week. His illustration is there to reinforce his point on people being in different domains or worlds, and those individuals winning in their specific domains.

The author also shows the possibility of change and movement from one domain to another as long as an individual is willing to put up the necessary effort. In many occasions, people desire to achieve greatness but they are never willing to do what it takes. For instance, one may desire to be rich but may fail to work extra hours for the extra income. In addition, some people opt to spend their money on different things instead of making savings. The choices they make may play well in their domains, but they limit them to achieving other edges. Gary Bishop also sets a game plan that people may use to tackle their areas of weakness or their problems. The steps given show his proven method, and sharing it shows that he is sure of its relevance and practicality. Ideally, he hopes that his readers will follow the game plan, or create their own so that they may easily deal with various life issues that may seem difficult.

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